At no other time in history has the dating scene been more exciting or daunting!  The advent of the Internet allows us to connect with other singles across the country, while in the privacy of our own homes.  Speed dating allows us to multiple-date with the quickness of a micro- waved meal, and personal ads allow us to post our “romantic wish lists” in print publications for interested parties.  Many creative options are available, depending upon one’s lifestyle, personality, and personal preference.

Still, many females find themselves unsuccessful in making quality connections, despite the many choices, and their ongoing efforts.
To demystify the dating process, here are 12 ways to date smarter!

1. Have Dating Goals
Are you looking for Mr. Right?  Or Mr. Right Now?  Do you see marriage in your future, or are you just looking to have fun?  Where do you envision yourself 6 months down the line?  Having a clear purpose and parameters will help you to make the right decisions and define your search.

2. Date Safely
Whether it’s online, at a local bar, or through a dating service, exercise prudence and caution.  Never share intimate details about your life, nor share intimate activities too soon.

3. Have Realistic Expectations
Dating is a process that takes time, some trial and error and maturity to be successful.  As the expression goes, “you may have to kiss a few frogs!”

4. Keep an Open Mind
Sure we’d all like to date someone who looks like Keanu Reeves, Denzel Washington, or Brad Pitt.  But more than likely, you’ll encounter eligible bachelors who don’t meet all your criteria.  Allow yourself to be open to different dimensions of desirability, and recognize that there are many components to finding the right mate and being compatible.

5. Lose the “excess baggage”
Bitterness makes for bad dating experiences, and prolongs the process of finding a quality mate.

6. Cultivate the Art of Good Conversation
It enhances your overall appeal.  Don’t nag, gripe, or babble—strive to be engaging and interesting.

7. Never underestimate the Value of Humor
It relieves awkwardness and puts the other person at ease.

8. Don’t Bring up Your “ex” Unless Asked
Sometimes less is more.

9. Accentuate the positive
Whether it’s in your appearance or your perspective.  Play to your strengths.

10. Heed the Red Flags
Anger, evasive behavior, or aggression are often signs of potential problems ahead.  Take note and act accordingly.

11. Try Different Methods in your Search
If online dating doesn’t pan out, don’t give up there---try speed dating, hooking up through friends, or other avenues.

12. Believe for the Best
Keep your head up, and your heart open!  Don’t make Paul pay for the sins of Peter.  Judge every potential suitor on his individual merits.

By following these 12 principles, you’ll have greater success in your search, fewer Friday nights alone, and less wear and tear on your heart!