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Why Woman Love Bad Boys
By: Allen Lee Greer
Posted August 2006

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Allen Greer ForTheModernMan Editor MaryElise

So, you’re into the proverbial “bad boy” type. The mystery and unpredictability of a man who is a little rough around the edges sparks your interest, and the khaki and polo shirt, mama’s boy is as unappealing to you as spoiled milk. Your idea of masculinity comes from images of strapping men with body art, goatees, and a tolerance for alcohol equivalent to 3 lesser males. Furthermore, you tend to play the part, making yourself one of the guys” and have learned to appreciate a man who makes football and beer a part of his weekend ritual. I’m seeing some connections here. Now, let’s take a look at these “bad boys” you find so manly and relationship-worthy.

The cookie cutter alpha-male projects an outward appearance of confidence. He’s outgoing, untamed, smooth talking, and rebellious. The sum of these personality traits results in the tendency to resistance control and authority, which is the reason for his heart breaker mentality, but is extremely appealing on the surface. The Male ego feeds off of rebellion, creating visions of marriage being a prison cell and an end to days of being a bachelor. To combat the notion of being controlled, men often live out fantasies of being young and free by partying their lives away and bouncing from girl to girl just to get a thumbs up from their friends. When you’re ready to get serious, you’re implying marriage, and this is the cue for the bad boy to hit the road.

In the end, the “bad boy” is simply a coward, scared to death of becoming a real man with real responsibilities and morals. The bad boy is running from the “controlling” environment created by marriage and therefore makes you his prey, taking advantage of your attraction to his lack of respect for the rules of life.

Don’t be the next “ball and chain”. Find a man who views a relationship as a new freedom from the loneliness of not knowing love, and one who rebels against being the typical male. These days, it is more radical for a man not to conform to the bar-hopping, Maxim-reading ways of our culture. The true rebel just may be that “nice guy” you’ve been avoiding for so long.